Lessons From "The 40 Year Old Virgin"
Don't give up on meeting and dating women just because you don't
know what to say or do.
Recently I went to go see the movie "The 40 Year Old Virgin," and
it is without a doubt one of the funniest movies I've ever
seen.
The film focuses on a lovable guy who has pretty much given up on
women, choosing to play with his toys and video games
instead.
When his friends find out that he's still a virgin at the age of
40, they start giving him advice on how to get a woman.
Even though the movie is a comedy, and some of the characters and
situations are rather outlandish, there's still some great messages
at the heart of the movie.
The first of which is -- IT'S NEVER TOO LATE.
No matter what has happened to you in the past, or what is going on
in your life currently, it's not too late for you to start meeting
and dating women.
Seriously, some guys take themselves out of the game, or just
simply give up when the going gets a bit tough.
Either because of the pain of rejection or fear of women, they
choose to take the less painful road and keep to themselves,
letting one opportunity after another with women pass them
by.
But living a life devoid of love or intimacy is NOT a good
thing!
People aren't meant to be hermits, we're social creatures and we
have to interact with others.
Unless you're a monk devoted to a life of celibacy, you're going to
want to have a good woman in your life.
That brings us to our second lesson -- LEAVE YOUR COMFORT
ZONE!
In "The 40 Year Old Virgin," opportunities with women did not start
happening with the main character until he stopped doing what was
comfortable for him and left his "comfort zone."
Usually, he'd spend his nights watching TV, either alone or with
his elderly neighbors. But when he started going out to places like
bars, speed dating events, bookstores, and other places he didn't
normally go to, he began to learn some things about women.
The whole idea of moving out of your comfort zone isn't to make you
feel UNCOMFORTABLE, it's about helping you to LEARN. And it's
because you're learning that you feel uncomfortable, due to the
fact that you're starting to do something new that's never been
part of your reality before.
Too often, we get used to doing certain things, living a certain
way, and acting a certain way.
It becomes routine.
We become used to it, even if it's not healthy!
And when we try to venture outside of it, we scurry back to our
comfort zone because we don't like doing things that are new and
scary!
But how else are you going to learn what works for you if you don't
venture into the unknown?
How else are you going to learn about women if you don't make the
effort to interact with them?
You must be willing to stop doing what's comfortable and take some
risk.
You may fail a few times, but when you do succeed, it'll be that
much more satisfying. And before you know it, what used to be scary
and uncomfortable is now easy!
The third lesson from "The 40 Year Old Virgin" is -- MEET
WOMEN.
Some of the funniest scenes in this new movie is when the main
character goes out with his friends to actually meet women.
If you don't know how to meet women, you'll never get one of
them!
Too often, guys will let one opportunity with women after another
pass them by because they don't know what to say or do to meet
them.
Understand that women are THERE for you to meet!
They WANT you to meet them -- in fact, they EXPECT you to meet
them!
And if you don't, then they think you're just not interested in
them.
Seriously, all the guys out there who know how to get lots of dates
are the guys who walk up to women and start talking to them,
display their personality and confidence, and then get the
date.
If you don't act like one of those guys, if you don't approach
women, then it's the woman's belief that you just aren't that into
them.
It can be a hard thing meeting women, and it can lead to
embarrassing moments (as you'll see in "The 40 Year Old Virgin"
movie), but ultimately THIS is what will get you success!
